Gay author and commentator Andrew Sullivan suggested a new poll was ‘rigged for PC purposes to inflate the number of bisexuals and lesbians.’ (Photo by Nam Y. Huh/AP)
A
national
poll
showing
that
bisexuals
account
for
half
the
number
of
people
who
identify
as
gay,
lesbian
or
bisexual
is
drawing
mixed
reactions.
Many
bisexual
men
and
women
told
the
Blade
that
the
findings,
part
of
a
poll
funded
by
Human
Rights
Campaign
and
controlled
by
City
University
of
New
York’s
Hunter
College,
are
enlightening.
“I
think
it
definitely
holds
some
truths
about
the
gay
community
that
most
members
would
rather
ignore,”
said
Nicole
Kristal,
co-author
of
“The
Bisexual’s
Guide
to
the
Universe.”
“There
are
plenty
of
lesbians
in
the
gay
community
who
occasionally
sleep
with
men
and
still
call
themselves
lesbians
and
vice
versa.
People
need
to
start
being
honest
in
their
daily
lives
about
their
actual
behaviors
rather
than
hiding
behind
convenient
black-and-white
labels
that
breed
acceptance
from
their
gay
and
lesbian
peers
who
often
condemn
bisexuality.”
The
poll
of
768
people,
conducted
last
month,
shows
in
its
adjusted
final
tally
that
15.4
percent
of
respondents
are
bisexual
men
and
33.5
percent
are
bisexual
women.
Gay
men
accounted
for
33.4
percent
of
the
poll’s
respondents
and
lesbians
accounted
for
17.8
percent.
The
poll
asked
respondents
to
assign
their
own
sexual
orientation.
Amy
Andre,
a
sexuality
studies
expert
who
helped
write
a
bisexual
health
issues
report
this
year
for
the
National
Gay
&
Lesbian
Task
Force,
said
the
poll’s
findings
are
not
without
precedent.
The
U.S.
government’s
National
Survey
of
Family
Growth
found
in
2002
that
56
percent
of
men
and
women
who
identified
as
gay,
lesbian
or
bisexual
were
bisexual.
“So
the
findings
at
Hunter
come
as
no
surprise
to
me,”
she
said.
“Neither
do
the
reactions
to
the
Hunter
study.
Bi-phobia
is
unfortunately
alive
and
well
in
the
LGBT
community,
as
is
ignorance
about
the
lives
of
bisexual
people
within
the
community.”
The
poll
attracted
several
critics,
including
gay
author
and
commentator
Andrew
Sullivan,
who
suggested
the
poll
was
“rigged
for
PC
purposes
to
inflate
the
number
of
bisexuals
and
lesbians.”
Other
critics
said
the
poll
erred
and
that
bisexuals
represent
a
small
minority
among
those
who
are
gay,
lesbian
or
bisexual.
Many
bisexuals,
however,
suggested
that
Sullivan
maintains
a
narrow
view.
“He
surrounds
himself
with
gay
friends
and
is
involved
in
social
circles
that
are
predominantly
gay,”
said
James
Fenter,
a
46-year-old
bisexual
man
from
Boston.
“So
he
doesn’t
meet
many
bisexuals
and
then
he
just
makes
the
extrapolation
that
since
he
doesn’t
know
many
bisexuals,
they
don’t
exist.”
Some
bisexuals
told
the
Blade
they
tire
of
such
attitudes,
shared
by
gays
and
straights
alike.
Loraine
Hutchins,
a
59-year-old
bisexual
woman
from
Takoma
Park,
Md.,
said
she
has
“often
been
made
to
feel
that
bisexuality
is
rare
and
inconsequential.”
Wendy
Curry,
a
42-year-old
bisexual
woman
from
Weare,
N.H.,
agreed.
“At
times
it
seems
we’ve
wasted
years
trying
to
prove
our
existence,”
she
said.
“And
why?
The
Andrew
Sullivans
of
the
world
will
never
see
us.”
‘In
this
together’
But
many
bisexuals
said
they
were
encouraged
by
the
Hunter
College
poll,
and
noted
it’s
now
up
to
individual
bisexuals
to
affirm
the
finding.
“When
we
don’t
identify
ourselves,
we
only
lend
to
the
impression
that
we
aren’t
even
there,”
said
Erynn
Rowan
Laurie,
a
46-year-old
bisexual
woman
from
Everett,
Wash.
“We
create
our
own
invisibility.”
She
said
the
Hunter
College
poll,
which
“demonstrates
we
actually
exist,”
could
help
bisexuals
find
new
acceptance
among
their
gay
and
lesbian
peers.
And
with
that
acceptance,
said
Mimi
Hoang,
a
30-year-old
bisexual
woman
from
Los
Angeles,
could
come
benefits
for
all.
“It’s
sad
to
me
that
gays
and
lesbians
have
such
a
hard
time
standing
by
their
bi
brothers
and
sisters,”
she
said,
“because
we
are
really
in
this
fight
together,
about
having
our
love
lives
and
families
validated
and
respected,
no
matter
what
gender
we
love.”
Joshua
Lynsen
can
be
reached
at
jlynsen@washblade.com.
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simbako on 6/4/089:13 AM:
I was not agree or either disagree to bisexual its a human want and I am respecting people who was indulge with that kind of relationship to the public. Being human, sexuality is human behavior that feeds our wants.
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Slamrock on 1/1/083:59 PM:
Hello Scraly. I would say that people are capable of personal evolution in their understanding of themselves, and in what aspects of their person they embrace. In my case, I was sexually attraced to both sexes ever since I was a child, but had only acted on my attraction to women up until my 30's. When I had my first gay relationship, I started thinking of myself as gay. Now I understand that both aspects of attraction are who I am sexually. Therefore I identify as bisexual. I desire both.
JessicaMur on 1/1/0811:52 AM:
Of course, bi men exist. I am bi and my boyfriend is bi. The fact that we are both dating each other will never effect our sexuality. However, my boyfriend often says to me, (to my great disdain) that he is essentially straight. He means that because we intend to be together for years to come that he no longer practices his bisexuality. Perhaps this is a trait of many bi men? When dating a man they view themselves as gay and when dating a woman they view themselves as straight? Just a theory.
mykill on 12/27/076:41 PM:
Henriette - that NY Times article refers to a study that has no scientific value. Before swallowing Bailey's "study" unquestioned, you might want to read more about it:
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Bailey/Bisexuality/Bisexuality-NYT%207-05-05.html#Intro
BTW, i am physically and emotionally attracted to men and women, i have loved men and women, i am currently in a relationship with a man and a woman. I am a bi man and i exist. What does it benefit you to try to diminish me?
scraly on 12/27/0712:48 AM:
checked a bi site http://www.findbilover.com. there are also many gays, lesbians. Can a gay person turn bisexual? can a straight person turn bisexual?
Henriette on 12/25/073:29 PM:
I believe this: http://www.nytimes.com/2005/07/05/health/05sex.html
And this topic is too silly for words. If not for discrimination and low approval, gay men wouldn't feel the need to say they're bi. Like Saddam's weapons, there is no evidence that bi men exist unless you swallow things unquestioned. Happy Holidays to all.
Slamrock on 12/25/073:07 PM:
Poor Henriette, you might be uncertain about your gender, but questioning whether you are a mammal or not is foolishness. So is denying someone else's own understanding of themselves because it doesn't fit your preconceptions.
Henriette on 12/25/071:04 AM:
So true. All these boxes are so artificial and unnecessary. In fact, why should I even call myself a female? Or for that matter, a mammal?
Slamrock on 12/24/079:05 PM:
It's time to move past the concept of "a box for everyone". Sexual attraction is more like a spectrum. I identify as gay when I talk about my current relationship, but as bi when I talk about my desire. And when are we going to accept the polyamory community into our fold? Bi-sexuals can only find sexual fulfillment in open or poly relationships. GLBTP!!! For that matter, why doesn't HRC take a stand for polygamy? Equal marriage rights, huh!
Henriette on 12/23/076:44 PM:
Listen, I am so old that when I was a girl, the Dead Sea was just sick. And I've never met a bisexual male. Women, lots of them, but not one male. They either do not exist, or are as rare as those WW2 Japanese soldiers-- you know, they find one every twenty years, they are hiding in the jungle because they don't know the war is over. Now, I have met some men who CLAIMED to be bisexual, and believe me, it was always because they thought it was a promotion from being gay... which they were.
Captain Oblivious on 12/23/073:58 AM:
Oh my god. I still don't get this. What is the point of throwing off the shackles of the heteronormative paradigm if you're just going to weld yourself a new set in a more fabulous colour!?
I mean, seriously. The very FIRST lesson one should take from the whole closet experience is that enclosed spaces are no fun. Stop putting people in boxes!
Ye Olde Fart on 12/22/075:38 PM:
It is my experience that the study is quite credible. As a Catholic priest who has heard confessions for over 20 years, and from many gay persons who came to me, it is my estimation that bisexual men outnumber the gay-only in our community by three to one.
This is my estimation. No individual facts were recorded because of confidentiality concerns.
beergoggles on 12/22/071:49 PM:
At least the polls conducted within the LGBT community give a slightly less biased breakdown of bisexuality. I've always been suspicious that the homosexuality obsessed anti-gay bigots who claim being gay is a choice are actually bisexuals and the oppression of gays is a result of these bisexuals attempting to suppress that part of themselves that gays celebrate. Judging by their number, there are a lot of bisexuals who identify as straight.
Curtis on 12/22/0711:40 AM:
It is nice to see the Blade really is a LGBT publication. I often see LGBT in the name of publications or organizations and then discover the inside is only about gays and lesbians. I'm willing to debate about the number of bisexual people in our world, but I don't understand how people can say we don't exist. The numbers don't really matter; equality and acceptance should be there for everyone because our enemies us lump us all in the same category anyway.
MissRed on 12/22/079:56 AM:
I'm not cure why people are surprised by this. The truest irony of all is that discrimination is the standard in the LGBT community - and not just for me and my bi brothers and sisters. Let's not forget that African-Americans are also slighted. Fact is, our community will never truly succeed until we can figure out how to heal the divisions that exist among those who should support each other most.
kusumlko on 12/22/074:34 AM:
two things are very surprining true intellectuals should ponder on these issues. (1) gays complain about discrimination but they themselves discriminate about bi people. (2) people give so much importance to the views of celebrities, poll surveys demographic statistics. these are not the creteria for assessing an issue. basic point is what CHRIST, or Prophet MoHammad views are on these issues. very strange and pathetic that people give more importance to ordinary people and ignore the teachings
Rob Barton on 12/21/079:25 PM:
This helps us with visibility because it provides academic support for what we have been saying all along. We have to maintain our visibility as a group and as individuals. Good story.
TheBellyBionic on 12/21/076:37 PM:
I find it amazing that so many of the people in the GLBT community who insist that bisexuality doesn't exist, or is very rare, are the same people who argue with me when I tell them that I'm bisexual. I've had more people than I care to count tell me that I'm not really bi, that I'm just trying to cling to heterosexual privilege, or "not ready to come out yet". If you've already convinced yourself that bi people aren't real, of course you won't believe a study that shows you you're wrong.
sapphie on 12/21/076:34 PM:
Recognition and acceptance of bisexuality is a cultural issue, and varies from place to place just as it does for mainstream gays. It's quite common where I grew up, so I was surprised at attitudes in other places, where we're denied, shunned, and forced into closets -- not by straights, who only find us interesting, but by other queers, who find us threatening. But after so many years, I'm not sure how much I care anymore about getting past this insular, denigrating culture of denial.
Beachgal on 12/21/074:33 PM:
As a bi woman, it was genuinely refreshing to see the results of this poll. The more I read and talk to others in the LGBT community, the more I hear that the label we give ourselves is rarely black and white. As the article mentioned, there are all sorts of people who call themselves "lesbian" or "gay" but do, at times, have sex with someone of the opposite sex. I look forward to a day when bisexuality is considered a valuable option in the spectrum of sexual orientation.
Ladybug on 12/21/072:11 PM:
Also:Maybe instead of complaining that there were too many bisexual people in the poll, everyone should just be happy that, according to the poll, all us bis are voting for LGBT rights.
Ladybug on 12/21/072:06 PM:
Put on your gay-colored glasses and all you see is gay. There are plenty of bisexual people in the LGBT community and out in the world, as well.
Thanks to Joshua Lynsen for pointing that out in this article.