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Friday, February 06, 2009

Hey Woody!

I'm 18, have a nice body, cute butt and all that, but nobody online hits me up. I think what's causing all the “ignores” is my femininity. I'm kind of femme, yes, and it probably shows in my pics.

I have long hair, too, and I think that adds to the rejection. I'm not a cross dresser, I just happen to be not as masculine as some other guys. And with everyone wanting “hot masculine muscle jocks …” well, my question is, what am I supposed to do?

I'm lonely and it depresses me that most guys don't find guys like me attractive (except the very old sugar daddies). Sometimes I just wanna chop off all ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2009/2-6/eclipsemag/need/14039.cfm Fri, 6 Feb 2009 05:00:00 EST Perils of co-worker hookups Perils of co-worker hookups

By WOODY MILLER
Friday, December 26, 2008
Hey Woody!

I'm 42 and everything still works. There is this 18-year-old at my place of employment who has never been “worked.” We are very attracted to each other. I'm sure that in our small town, he doesn't know any other gay guys.

He's too damn young and I have the common sense not to see anybody from work, but pickings are slim around here and it's been so long since I've been with anyone that I may not be able to help myself. Events and his hints are soon going to put us alone in my apartment and I'm afraid I'm going to practically attack him if he gives me that hungry look one more time.

I'm allowing all this to happen and I feel like disa ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/12-26/eclipsemag/need/13766.cfm Fri, 26 Dec 2008 05:00:00 EST Perils of co-worker hookups Perils of co-worker hookups

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Friday, December 19, 2008
Hey Woody!

I'm 42 and everything still works. There is this 18-year-old at my place of employment who has never been “worked.” We are very attracted to each other. I'm sure that in our small town, he doesn't know any other gay guys.

He's too damn young and I have the common sense not to see anybody from work, but pickings are slim around here and it's been so long since I've been with anyone that I may not be able to help myself. Events and his hints are soon going to put us alone in my apartment and I'm afraid I'm going to practically attack him if he gives me that hungry look one more time.

I'm allowing all this to happen and I feel like disa ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/12-19/eclipsemag/need/13806.cfm Fri, 19 Dec 2008 05:00:00 EST Slumber number Slumber number
Do you tell him how many guys you've slept with?
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, December 12, 2008
Hey Woody!

I'm a 19-year-old college student who kinda went crazy during my freshman year, mostly with the help of the cruise sites. I'm tested frequently for HIV and the normal cocktail of STDs but have never contracted anything.

A lot of guys lately have been asking how many people I've been with. A year ago, I would have proudly responded that I've only been with four guys … but now you'd have to add a zero on the end of that four just to get close. Normally, when it bothers someone that I've been with that many people, their concern is not that I'm a whore, but that they'll get an STD.

I have always practiced safer sex (condoms, not swallowing) ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/12-12/eclipsemag/need/13721.cfm Fri, 12 Dec 2008 05:00:00 EST Attaching strings Attaching strings
When a trick tries to become a boyfriend
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Friday, December 05, 2008
Hey Woody!

I'm 18 and I've had a pretty steady sex buddy for about two years. It's been a lot of fun and I don't want it to end. The problem is that I'm just in it for the sex. That's how it started and that's what it still is for me.

Now all of a sudden he's been giving me pet names and saying stuff like, “You know this just doesn't have to be about sex.” I like him and the sex but I don't want to date him.

How do I keep things strictly sexual if he's fallen in love with me?

Buddy Blues



Dear Blues:

You're done for. Once a sex buddy “turns” and starts seeing you as marriage ma ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/12-5/eclipsemag/need/13697.cfm Fri, 5 Dec 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
How to fight 'minute man' syndrome
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, November 28, 2008
Hey Woody!

I pretty much get instantly hard when somebody turns me on. The problem is, I just as often instantly orgasm. With boyfriends, I can gradually learn to savor, focus and control my excitement by breathing and doing Tantric exercises.

But now I'm single again, and I end up prematurely ejaculating, missing out on some highly anticipated trips to the moon. I have two questions: How long would you say lovemaking lasts when it's “good,” and how can I extend the range and flight pattern of my missile before it takes off into outer space and lands?

Astro-naught


Dear Naught:

Research shows the average g ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/11-28/eclipsemag/need/13659.cfm Fri, 28 Nov 2008 05:00:00 EST ISO Mr. Right and Mr. Bright ISO Mr. Right and Mr. Bright

By WOODY MILLER
Friday, November 21, 2008

Hey Woody!

I have a rather unusual dilemma — I'm a doctor. I'm 29, love my career, am in great shape and have a brain, which seems to be a turn off for most guys I date.

Recently, I had a date with a guy (very cute, really attracted to him) who asked me to write him a prescription for Adderall so he could party. I just shook my head, paid the dinner bill and left without another word. Very disappointing!

I know my career intimidates most guys — at least those who don't try to use me as a walking prescription pad to PNP — and I might make things worse by seeking an intellectual spark in my potential mates. I must admi ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/11-21/eclipsemag/need/13622.cfm Fri, 21 Nov 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
How will I know if he really loves me?
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, November 07, 2008

Hey Woody!

I met this guy online and we chatted online or talked on the phone almost every night for weeks. I really fell for him even though we never physically met. Then, suddenly, he stopped all contact. He won't return my e-mails, texts or calls. I'm crushed and I just can't rest until I know why he ended it.

How bad is it to ask for closure from someone you've never met? I mean, if you're talking every night for weeks, doesn't the other guy owe you something?

Disconnected

 

Dear Disconnected:

He owes you nothing. N-O-T-H-I-N-G. How can somebody you've never met owe you for so ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/11-7/eclipsemag/need/13555.cfm Fri, 7 Nov 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
ISO final fling before moving in with BF
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Friday, October 31, 2008

Hey Woody!

For about five months now, I've been boyfriends with a guy I met online. We're moving in together in a few months. I care about him very much and I want to be with him, but part of me also wants to have one last “fling” before we make the step to move in together.

Should I allow myself to take a dip in the pool one last time?

One More Go 'Round


Dear One More:

I love how you say “one last fling” as if you're about to get into a committed relationship rather than already being in one. I understand it, though. It's the same mentality I had the first ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/10-31/eclipsemag/need/13501.cfm Fri, 31 Oct 2008 05:00:00 EST Need wood Need wood
 Gambling with unprotected sex
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, October 24, 2008

Hey Woody!

OK, I've been through the lectures and read all your articles, but I still have this incredible thing for bareback sex. I know I'm putting myself at great risk, but I just can't seem to help it.

I used to be very uptight and never play without a condom, but something changed and now I can't stop going raw. I'm versatile and love to bottom bare. Is there any way to have a safer bareback session? Would douching right after help? Is there medication one could take?

Bareback Addict

 

Dear Addict:

Yes, there is a safer way to bareback, if you think a ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/10-24/eclipsemag/need/13460.cfm Fri, 24 Oct 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
Taking a dating hiatus to find Mr. Right
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, October 03, 2008
HEY WOODY!

I've pretty much lost all hope of ever meeting anyone for a meaningful relationship. It's been 10 years since I last dated anyone (I'm 38). It's been so long since I last had sex I can't even remember who or when it was.

Until recently, I went out every weekend and had profiles on almost all the social networking sites, gay and straight. I know that going out to the club isn't the best place to meet someone, but I don't live in a huge gay mecca. There aren't gay coffee shops or restaurants to frequent.

When I do go out I'm never even looked at. Physically I'm no Adonis but it's not like I need to be rolled back out to sea either. I think I'm a v ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/10-3/eclipsemag/need/13378.cfm Fri, 3 Oct 2008 05:00:00 EST Spark it up Spark it up
How to kick start opposing libidos
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Friday, September 19, 2008
Hey Woody!

You have to help me. You are my last resort. I'm 25 and have the sex drive of an 18 year old. My boyfriend of almost seven years is 32, and has the sex drive of a 60 year old.

It seems like the only time we have sex is when he is in the mood or when I am almost “forcing” him to. I can usually get him into the mood by doing different things to seduce him, but he is never the one to initiate sex.

We have tried several different things with no improvement. What can we do to get his sex drive up to where it should be?

Kid In A (Sugar-free) Candy Store


Dear Sugar-free:

At 32, he should be stuff ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/9-19/eclipsemag/need/13295.cfm Fri, 19 Sep 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
Big guys need lovin' too!
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Friday, September 12, 2008

Hey Woody!

I'm 20, been out for almost five years now, but I've never had a boyfriend. Yes, I've had plenty of hookups, but I'm so over it. They're just not satisfying anymore, especially when they aren't there to do it again the next night!

I know I'm never going to be in People magazine's “50 Most Beautiful People,” but I don't think I'm fugs either. I'm 6'2, 220 pounds, 34 waist and go to the gym regularly.

Maybe I'm a hypochondriac creating male-to-male dating disorders for myself, but I'd really like to know why I've never been asked out or even approached by a guy at a club, or anywhere else for that matter. Help ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/9-12/eclipsemag/need/13249.cfm Fri, 12 Sep 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
Will honesty ruin a new relationship?
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, September 05, 2008

Hey Woody!

My boyfriend and I have been an official couple for just over a month now. Even though we met cruising online, we took things slow and waited a long time to have sex. He was worth it.

Last night, after some unrelated drama, I was down on myself, looking for a friend to comfort me, and naively took the invitation of an ex-boyfriend to come over as nothing more than an invitation to watch a movie.

Bottom line: I cheated on my boyfriend. It's the first time I've ever done anything like that, and it so wasn't worth it. Now I feel like I've rendered myself unable to forge a real emotional connection with my boyfriend.

... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/9-5/eclipsemag/need/13197.cfm Fri, 5 Sep 2008 05:00:00 EST Third-wheel theology Third-wheel theology
Is it wrong to sleep with a married man?
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Friday, August 29, 2008
Hey Woody!

I am having a sexual affair with this hot 28-year-old blond who is married to a woman. We totally dig each other and have hot sex every time we meet. On discussing this with my gay friend, he called me a home wrecker and said I should stay away from married guys.

I beg to differ. I feel it's totally the married guy's problem — not mine. I only have sex with him and am not attached to him in any other way. He would find someone else to hook up with anyway, even if I were to say no. What do you think?

Affairy



Dear Fairy:

You kinda had me on your side until you got to the, “If he didn't do it ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/8-29/eclipsemag/need/13188.cfm Fri, 29 Aug 2008 05:00:00 EST When cleaning becomes an obsession When cleaning becomes an obsession
Is it possible to overdo it when cleansing?
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Friday, August 22, 2008

Hey Woody!

I'm getting older — in dog years, I'd be dead. Fortunately, my taste has aged along with my fashion sense, so guys my age are not out of the question. But every now and again, I confess to trolling the twinky bars and culling the herd.

Anyway, as a tried-and-true top, I've been experimenting with being a bottom. I went out and bought myself one of those shower douche attachments, but now I'm a bit worried that I might damage myself and wind up as a garden fountain at a garage sale.

At first, I could barely get the thing in, and it's pathetically small. Now I finally know what all those bottoms were screaming about.

Thing is, after some prac ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/8-22/eclipsemag/need/13116.cfm Fri, 22 Aug 2008 05:00:00 EST Is it too soon to say, 'I love you?' Is it too soon to say, 'I love you?'

By WOODY MILLER
Friday, August 15, 2008

Hey, Woody!

I've been dating this awesome guy I met on Manhunt for a few months. I'm all about being honest in a relationship, but I'm scared to tell him that I'm falling for him because I think it may push him away.

How soon is too soon to say, “I love you?” It's like I fight the urge to say it every time we share a nice moment or sleep together; but I worry that if I do, he may end the relationship. Any advice?

Secretly in Love

 

trong>Dear Secret:

Nothing will kill a love affair faster than saying “I love you” too soon. And believe me, it's too soon. You would ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/8-15/eclipsemag/need/13098.cfm Fri, 15 Aug 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
Tips for sending the right sexual messages
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, August 08, 2008
Hey, Woody!

I'm in a pickle. I'm a total bottom but I give off the impression that I'm a top. This poses a dilemma — everyone who goes home with me expects me to top them. I've been told to play a submissive role and wait for the guy to approach me but that doesn't seem to work. I want to attract the opposite sexual position. How can I give off a vibe that I'm a bottom?

pan class="subheader">— Mixed signals



Dear Mixed:

Dude, you are seriously mixed up. Bottoming is a preference not an identity. You can't put out “bottom energy” to attract “tops” any more than you can put out “spaghetti&r ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/8-8/eclipsemag/need/13055.cfm Fri, 8 Aug 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
A two-top conundrum
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, August 01, 2008
pan>Hey Woody!

I'm an 18-year-old freshman in college. I met the guy I'm in love with at the gym pool, where I spied the perfect amount of hair disappearing into his Speedos.

Everything between us is great, except we're both tops! Early on, he said, “We have a predicament…”

That night, after repeated refusals to wrap his legs around me, which resulted in a sweaty wrestling match, I said, “This is your predicament, not mine. What about reciprocity?”

He claims that he enjoys bottoming “in theory,” but “in practice” he has never enjoyed it. I just know that he would enjoy it. But whenever I actual ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/8-1/eclipsemag/need/13005.cfm Fri, 1 Aug 2008 05:00:00 EST Need Wood Need Wood
New lease on love
By WOODY MILLER
Friday, July 25, 2008

Hey Woody!

I'm 19 and have been in a long-term relationship for almost a year. I love my partner to bits. He's 24, sweet, funny and a great guy all round.

He takes care of me physically and emotionally, gives me money for gas and such. No, he's not a sugar daddy; he's just more financially stable than me.

The problem is, I want to experiment with other guys and he doesn't. We talked a while ago about having a threesome and he said he would be up for it, but every time I bring it up, he just shrugs it off.

He works a 9-5 job, and I work nightshifts behind the bar in a club. I flirt with a lot of great looking guys at my job. They'll touch my face and BAM! ... ]]> http://washblade.com/2008/7-25/eclipsemag/need/12967.cfm Fri, 25 Jul 2008 05:00:00 EST